"When we honestly ask ourselves which person in our lives means the most to us, we often find that it is those who, instead of giving much advice, solutions, or cures, have chosen rather to share our pain and touch our wounds with a gentle and tender hand. The friend who can be silent with us in a moment of despair or confusion, who can stay with us in an hour of grief or bereavement, who can tolerate not knowing, not curing, not healing and face with us the reality of our powerlessness, that is a friend who cares." -- Henri Nouwen, from Out of Solitude
For Students, Staff, Alums, and Families
It is our hope that you will find the information listed here useful during your time of bereavement. It includes information about ongoing workshops and programs that are available to you on campus as well as off-campus resources and additional websites that you might find helpful.
We encourage you to take advantage of the resources described within and connect with other members of the Hampshire community who are experiencing grief.
For Support, Sharing, Silence, Contemplation, Reflection, and Resources
The spiritual life staff are available to students, staff, faculty, and alumni of every background. Spiritual, religious, atheist, agnostic, nonreligious, or however you define yourself, we are here for you. Grief often raises questions about values and meanings and people look for ways to express themselves and move through experiences of loss. Please call on us for these confidential conversations and resources if you have lost a loved one, or have a friend who has.
Liza M. Neal, director of spiritual life, lmnSA@hampshire.edu, Rachel D'vash Schoenfeld, campus rabbi, rsSA@hampshire.edu, Syma Sheikh, intercultural community spiritual advisor, ssSLC@hampshire.edu can all be reached by email, phone (413.559.5282), or stopping by the spiritual life office on the 2nd floor of Merrill House student services.
The Spiritual Life Center in Donut 5 provides quiet, comfort, couches, tea, and time.
For Therapy and Groups On Campus:
Health and counseling services provides for the medical and mental health needs of students. All visits and inquiries are confidential. Sometimes the death of a loved person increases our vulnerability to the point that our emotional, social, and spiritual resources are depleted and our capacity to sustain ourselves is diminished. The process of bereavement can be favorably influenced by the support of friends and family, and sometimes counseling. Medical and counseling appointments can be made by calling 413.559.5458. For a mental health emergency on evenings/weekends, call 413.559.1911 and ask for the area coordinator on call.
Health and counseling services is located near admissions and the Red Barn. There are two paths that lead to health services. One starts behind Enfield, and the other starts by the four-way stop sign on the main on-campus road.
Off-Campus resources (pdf)
Grief Resources Bibliography (pdf)